Does your child despair when faced with the first difficulty, is inattentive, does not try? Teachers and psychologists confirm: modern children are losing interest in learning earlier. Parents are in a panic. According to Levada Center polls, 49% of Russians say that schoolchildren are not interested in studying as the most serious problem in the education system. At the same time, 28% of us would like to raise the desire for knowledge in our children, and 59% are sure that good schooling is necessary for a successful future career.
Parents themselves, perhaps, studied in the Soviet school and were more disciplined students, but they hardly wanted to study more than their children. It was just easier to manage them: "You have to."
What has changed today? Tight discipline is gone, and a lack of interest in learning has become more apparent. In addition, the pace of life accelerated. To engage a student in the learning process, more individual, practical tasks related to everyday life are needed.
Every child has a need for development. All children are inquisitive, but we adults do not encourage their curiosity, as well as independence. And the interest in learning is directly related to how the student feels responsible for himself.
“The influence of parents is indirect, we cannot force the child to be interested,” insists psychologist Tamara Gordeeva, author of the book “Psychology of achievement motivation,” but we can “trigger” intellectual activity by offering him something that captivates us. ”
Most schools do not set themselves the goal of making children interested in learning
The situation is complicated by the influence of modern culture: today it is assumed that pleasure, success should follow immediately. It turns out that parents give their children a contradictory attitude - they encourage the immediate satisfaction of any desires, but require perseverance. “Only by directing the child’s interest, taking into account his individual characteristics, can the situation be changed,” Tamara Gordeeva is sure.
“Only high school students can be motivated by the future result, the opportunity to enter a university, and get a good job,” says family psychologist Lyudmila Petranovskaya. “You can entice those who have just come to school only by the process of study.” But most schools, alas, do not set themselves the task of making children interesting to learn. This means that we, the parents, will have to develop our own taste for participating in the school life of the child.
“To become a tutor in all subjects is no way out,” says child psychologist Elena Morozova. “After all, it’s not possible for anyone to remain impartial in relation to their child: emotions and causes from the unconscious interfere with equanimity.”
What does a child need motivation for?
- Interest and meaning to learn: he needs to feel pleasure from what he is doing and understand why he does it.
- The ability to set goals and achieve them, that is, plan, concentrate, control their actions.
- Belief in yourself, understanding that success depends on himself.
- Persistence in overcoming difficulties, determination to finish the job.
High School: Independence and Promotion
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