>How to remember faces and names
Each of us has to remember faces and names, and we have been doing this throughout our lives. However, this is precisely the information that is least amenable to recording. Of course, it is not difficult to write down the name and surname, but it is often necessary to remember the person who owns this name with a surname, and sometimes a middle name.
Each of you must have been in an unpleasant situation when you could not recognize the person whom you had already met, or at the right time contact the person by name. But the name is a part of the personality, therefore, forgetting it, we seem to belittle the significance of the person’s personality. In addition, psychologists have long discovered that the sound of a proper name is pleasant to a person like no other sound.
It is noticed that the frequent use of a name in a conversation has an interlocutor for you. Have you noticed how pleasantly surprised you are when you do not expect that you can remember their names (and especially the names of their children or parents), and you remember, and this often puts you in a favorable position and certainly never bothers you.
I think you will agree with me that all these are far from all the reasons why it is useful to learn to remember faces and names. Let me remind you just about one more circumstance. Remember how people who remember the names of the people around them are usually popular. I’m probably not mistaken if I say that the most popular among teachers at school and teachers at the institute are precisely those who know all pupils or students by name.
And even very strict bosses are often popular with subordinates if they address everyone by name and patronymic. In history, there is also confirmation of this - the popularity of military leaders who knew their soldiers by name - Kutuzov, Napoleon. However, often people instead of developing a memory for their faces and names come up with ways to deal with the consequences of their forgetting in order not to fall into an uncomfortable position.
Here are some of them. I think that after reading them, you will find something similar in your personal experience. By the way, often people use such methods completely unconsciously, pursuing the only goal - not to get into an uncomfortable position. For example, some people, having forgotten the surname and name of a person, resort to such a classical method: first they ask the person what his name is, and then, after hearing the name, they say: “Oh! This is exactly what I remember, I had in mind your last name. " After all, forgetting the name is considered less uncomfortable than the name.
This, of course, is a tricky device, but its use is limited, firstly, by the rather narrow scope of personal contact (you cannot use it when writing a letter or a document, when viewing a photo in an album, etc.). In addition, you will not always find a good reason to suddenly ask about a surname. Secondly, many people immediately call such a name both a name and a surname, and then your "twisting" looks even less plausible.
Another popular trick is that you ask a person to write down his last name, first name and middle name with his own hand and at the same time the phone, referring to the fact that you want everything to be spelled correctly. When meeting a person whose name will simply be necessary to use in the future, but it is irrevocably forgotten, the "sly ones" using this method usually say the following phrase: "Oh! I haven’t forgotten yet! Write (those) in your (new) notebook your data otherwise I’m forever. "
Of course, if the person’s name is Mungibar Ambneevich Kriduloppov, then your request is very appropriate and even necessary, and if you have Ivan Petrovich Sokolov in front of you, then your request can hardly be called justified. In addition, it is not convenient for every person to make such a request; you will not ask the new head of the partners of your company about this. Time and place for recording may also be inconvenient.
The third trick is that you directly ask the person: “Excuse me, but what is your name?”, Without blinking, look him in the eye with emotion, showing with all your appearance that you are not at all embarrassed by your question, but on the contrary (almost a challenge should be felt in your voice). Usually, the “interrogated person” in this way begins to tell you his name, if one name is not enough for you, you say in exactly the same tone: “Well, then, next?”
And when a person tells you everything that you want, you change your face and say smiling (you need to speak very quickly so that the person does not have time to figure out what's what): "Hurray! I won! No, I, of course, if I hadn’t I’m so sure that your name is just that, I wouldn’t argue, but even Ivanov (here the surname of an innocent person follows) asserted with such confidence that your middle name is "such and such", with such the certainty that I even doubted my innocence and now decided to find out personally. imagine, he lost to me. etc. "
The method, of course, is tricky, but again far from always appropriate. You may have seen such scenes from the side. Agree, it looks funny. The disadvantage of all such "tricks" is the fear that they will not work, and the person will understand that you have forgotten his name. Therefore, in order to always be sure that similar situations will not happen to you, it is better to master the techniques of effectively remembering faces and names.