Being polite is a matter of etiquette, respect, being attentive to people, their feelings, culture and values. It does not seem complicated, but many people do not own this etiquette. While some people have no interest in politics, you are probably wondering how you can improve your etiquette in behavior. At least you can learn how to avoid being rude or boorish. Being polite, knowing the rules of etiquette, is a good way to make new friends.
Courtesy of behavior.
Be polite, rule one ⇒ Be gentle and not behavioral or persistent. This does not mean that you need to act like a meek doe, as if it were a quiet trifling matter. This means that you do this without pressure on the people around you and do not make them feel as if they are being pushed into a corner.
* For example, if you have a conversation, this is one if you ask a question on a topic or offer your opinion, but another when you are rude, if someone caused discomfort (verbally or nonverbally) on this topic.
* Even if you are trying to help by offering to pay for lunch or to wash the dishes, do not be persistent. If a person refuses and says: “Thank you, I can handle it myself”, you can answer: “Please, I would be happy to help.” If they still say no, let it be so.
Be polite, rule two ⇒ If in doubt, watch others. How do they greet each other? What do they do with their coat? What topics do they discuss? Different relationships require different standards, and these standards often define what is polite and what is not.
* Relationships related to work, lunch, holiday, wedding or funerals will require different approaches in relationships, a different tone than relations with a group of friends.
Be polite, rule three ⇒ Be polite. Always be polite, as if you could meet this person again in a different setting and would not like to evoke negative memories that will give a bad location. If someone annoys you or even speaks in an offensive tone, do not respond as an argument either. Suggest “Let's disagree” and change the subject, politely continue the discussion, or simply refuse the conversation.
Be polite, rule four ⇒ Start a conversation, ask questions about any other person. Try not to talk too much about yourself if they want to know (or are polite) they ask. Be confident and charming. Do not be arrogant and boorish. Look, be interested and listen to the answers.
* Do not look over your shoulder at the person when he is speaking, or your eyes are lingering on the new guest who has just entered. This means that you are distracted or not interested in what your companion says, it is not important or interesting enough for you to pay attention to.
Be polite, fifth rule ⇒ Firm handshake and look in the eyes when doing so. You can practice this a little so as not to clap people's hands or hurt them. It will make them feel awkward. Be especially careful when shaking hands with women who have rings on their hands. Excessive pressure can be very painful.
* Remember also that many people of the "old school" (especially if they are located in Europe) consider it inappropriate to offer their hand for a handshake to a lady or an elderly gentleman, of course, if you are a gentleman or an older lady, if you are a lady. Always greet the other person first, but wait for them to give them your hands. But also, if you are an elderly person or lady, keep in mind that if you do not give your hand, that person may feel rejected because he or she wants to shake your hand. Usually this situation takes another person who is moving towards you for a handshake. Be careful.
* Do not approach someone with an outstretched hand. That is, do not be persistent. If you want someone to know that you are moving towards them, make contact with your eyes or with a smile, maybe a little opening your arm (bent at the elbow) to make a welcome gesture.
Be polite, rule six ⇒ Know the proper dinner etiquette rules. Put a napkin on your lap, and do not add anything to the table that was not there when you got there (cell phone, glasses, jewelry). Place your wallet between your legs, under your chair. Women should not apply makeup at the table. It looks rude and shows a lack of sophistication. If you want to correct makeup or check if there is something in the teeth, go to the toilet.
Be polite, rule seven ⇒ Smile and laugh, which shows your fun, but not loudly. Loudness indicates arrogance or uncertainty. Your charming politeness makes the other person feel good. Keep in mind this goal, to be attentive to the needs of people and their opinions. Do not make offensive remarks in relation to any ethnic, political or religious group under any circumstances.
Be polite, rule eighth ⇒ Be graceful and show elegance, behave smoothly, with a sense of calm. People will notice your subtle charm, and this will greatly help you.
Be polite, rule nine ⇒ It should be remembered that etiquette and manners vary depending on the cultural region in which you are. Be sure to learn the local customs while traveling!
Advice:
• Be polite to service personnel, do not neglect the rules of etiquette.
• Do not place your elbows on the table or take salt and pepper through people. Always ask if they can, please pass it on to you.
• And of course, always remember to say, please, or thank you.
• Never say “Help yourself” if you can do it ..
• Find out what clothes are needed for this occasion. How embarrassed to be when you are standing in the middle of a formal cocktail in leather pants and biker boots, if others are in a tuxedo.
• Try not to interrupt people when they are talking to other people or in the middle of someone.
• It is always much worse to be caught lying than to tell the truth.
How to be polite - wikiHow. Polite child. How to educate him? rules for polite people
Politeness is the ability and desire to speak and act kindly and courteously in any circumstances. A polite person easily makes friends, achieves success in work and shows respect for others. You may already have good manners, but want to learn how to fully manifest them when preparing for the upcoming dinner party, work party, or everyday life. You can be polite by properly greeting people and showing your good manners in words and in deed.
Greet people politely
Smile when you greet someone. If you meet a person or just greet your friend, do not forget about a smile. Your smile will indicate that you are in a good mood and you are glad to see a person. A smile is a good basis for developing friendships.
Say hello first. Instead of silently walking past a person you know or ignoring the person you have scheduled a meeting with, say hello friendly. Do not wait until a person says hello first, take the initiative in this.
- You can say: “Hello, Andrey. Nice to meet you! My name is Elena, I am a translator. ”
Avoid gossip. Although you may be tempted to speak unflattering about people you know, you should not. A polite person does not speak badly of others, even if the information that he owns is true. If others gossip in your presence, move the conversation to another topic or leave.
Sorry if you made a mistake. Although a polite person tries not to make mistakes while in society, it’s worth remembering that there are no perfect people. If you did something wrong, sincerely apologize. Do it without delay. Say that you regret what happened and do your best to prevent similar behavior in the future.
- For example, if you let down your friend by promising to go to a party with him, but you broke your promise, you can say: “Forgive me for letting you down. I returned from work tired and really wanted to sleep. However, this does not justify my act. So please excuse me. Let's meet this weekend. ”
Be nice
Come early. Respect someone else’s time. If you have an appointment, try to arrive at least five minutes early. You never know what can happen on the road. So get out early.
☁ HOW TO BECOME POLITE. Simple rules of courtesy☁
Politeness is not only the observance of rules of conduct established by society.
Be polite - show a sense of tact, have respect and delicacy in relation to other people, be able to take into account their interests and needs.
To become polite, you must follow the basic rules of courtesy:
Treat people the way you want them to treat you, with due attention and respect. Put yourself in the place of another person and see what impression your words will make. At the same time, do not forget to yourself, do not humiliate yourself: courtesy must be exercised with dignity.
- Always keep your word, keep promises, despite the barriers that have arisen in front of you. Learn to listen and hear: respect the opinions of other people, even if it diverges from yours. In a dispute, do not impose your point of view, be able to stop in time.
Many questions, such as personal life, nationality, religion, can put you and your interlocutors in an awkward position. Avoid criticism in the conversation, both in relation to the interlocutor, and in relation to other people. Learn to admit your mistakes.
Remember, the “magic” words (“thank you”, “please”, “sorry”) are still relevant in our technological world, use them more often in communication with family and strangers, and you will notice how your attitude will change.
Avoid rude, vulgar words, exclude harsh, accusatory notes from your behavior. Do not shout, speak softer, but at the same time confidently. This applies both to relations with the outside world and in the family - be polite and attentive with your family.
Follow the rules of behavior on the street, in public places, etiquette at the table. Be hospitable and friendly. In public transport, give way to older, pregnant, women with children. Pass them forward, holding the door when entering the room.
Do not go on a visit empty-handed, or without an invitation or warning. Do not stay longer than expected, and saying goodbye, do not forget to thank the owner for the warm welcome.
Do not allow rudeness while driving, let cars off a secondary road, do not use a signal without good reason, apologize and thank you, take up one parking space, do not pursue the "irritant" ... - this will save your nerves and good mood to others.
Always smile! Your smile will help you easily get out of even the most awkward situation.
Follow these rules every day until they become a habit, and then you can proudly consider yourself a polite person!
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Summary of the lesson: - communicative education
“Why be polite?” (Conversation)
Reading fiction about politeness, games, facial expressions and pantomimes, didactic games to consolidate material on communicative education: “Guess and collect”, etc. "Shop" and others.
To foster interest in others, to develop a sense of understanding and empathy for others, the development of activity, independence in the process of communicative activity.
Material for the lesson:
Preparing attributes for stories.
Hello guys! Today we will talk about politeness. And why do you have to be polite? (listen to the children’s answers)
Not only children, but also very many adults want all their friends and all neighbors and even passers-by not at all familiar to them carefully, kindly, always love and respect them. To no one - no one made them comments.
The whole secret is that only people who are polite, well-mannered and kind, are the people around them kind. Only everyone loves and respects such a person. And he has good faithful reliable friends with whom he will never be bored.
But by the way, a polite well-mannered person has no time to be bored because he lives under a strict regime. He gets up early - does exercises, then washed, removes his bed, then helps mom and grandmother prepare breakfast and set the table.
During the day, a polite person, if he is not at school, will certainly help grandmother or mother clean the apartment: he will pour flowers, feed the cat and fish in the aquarium. He is not lazy to clean his shoes and go to the store for bread or milk.
A polite person always takes care of relatives and friends and is always ready to help them. And it is very correct. After all, if it is well to understand all the people in this world help each other and work for each other. So, it is working for you too. The builders built a house for you. Drivers take us around the city, doctors treat gardeners and foresters from diseases, plant gardens for us, grow forests ... Why don't we be attentive and kind to each other? It’s not so difficult.
It is not difficult to give way to an elderly person in a tram or bus, politely saying: "Please sit down." It is not difficult to greet people at a meeting and say to them “goodbye” “all the best” when parting. And what words of encouragement do you guys know? (children's answers)
It is not difficult to be neatly combed and washed, so that people around you will enjoy talking to you guys. And if necessary, it’s not difficult to politely seek help. It is not difficult to help housework with elders by offering their services. It is not difficult not to scatter your things around the room and to pack up your toys and school supplies, addressing politely with the help of a little sister or brother.
But a polite person must comply not only with these rules. There are many more. And if you guys don’t know all the rules compulsory for a polite person, do not be discouraged. The main thing is that you yourself absolutely firmly decide to become polite people, and for this you need to remember the dictionary of magic words and be able to apply them in communication with people around you. Why does it need to be a polite person?
Yes, so that you make many new friends. Then, so that mom, dad, grandparents, your neighbors and even strangers do not respect you. Then, that it is always pleasant and easy to communicate with polite and cultured people, you can always turn to them for help, and they will be happy to help.
Do you guys know what kind of adult or child you can call polite and why?
Tell me, do you think it is polite to interrupt each other during a conversation?
Tell me, do polite and well-bred children make many comments? We are studying with you, so for now you can make mistakes. What mistakes can you name? (solving problems through a situation: which of you will name more words using the appropriate intonation)
Do you guys try to become polite and well-mannered, and at home do you help your family? Are you attentive at home?
What do you think is the most difficult for a polite and well-mannered person?
Physical education - “Jump, stomp clap”
Game: The guys collect pictures and say what kind of facial expressions they see: good or evil. If it’s good, then they select suitable words and phrases confirming a good mood (rank it). If it’s evil, they select words so that the facial expression becomes kind: what needs to be said to a friend so that his mood improves so that he smiles.
Greetings to all readers of the project heading on ShkolaLa! The modern school curriculum has not so long ago been replenished with such a subject as “Secular Ethics”. I believe that the presence of this discipline is very important for the younger generation, since the culture of behavior in our country, especially among young people, alas, leaves much to be desired.
Therefore, if you were asked to prepare a project at school about what it means to be a polite person, welcome! And just reading for general development and raising the level of self-education is not bad, mastering the basic rules of how to be a worthy citizen of our country.
What is politeness?
Civility is considered to be such human qualities, brought together, in which a respectful attitude towards others does not become some kind of special behavior on occasion and when necessary, but a regular rule of communication every day.
The Russian word “polite” itself came from the 6th century, when the concept of “vezha” existed - from “know, know”, that is, the vezha was a person who knew how to behave in different situations. Вежеству, впоследствии плавно превратившемуся в вежливость, обучали в школах вместе с религией и грамотой.
Позднее, а именно к 16 веку, сформировалось современное значение этого слова, скрывающего под собой такие черты, как соблюдение светских и житейских приличий, услужливость и предупредительность.
In the modern world, a polite person is distinguished by good manners, good deeds and education. Is he:
- knows how to communicate with respect, adhering to a sense of tact,
- able to find a compromise by listening and hearing
- perceives criticism, assuming other, different from his own, points of view,
- keeps calm in conversation, not insisting and trying to avoid a quarrel.
Such moral quality as politeness is a phenomenon completely opposite to rudeness and arrogance.
Do you know that?! In the course of research, it turned out that the female sex is more likely to be polite than the male. Girls are more fond of compliments and sentiments and often use polite forms of communication.
What is politeness?
It turns out that politeness can manifest itself in different forms. Depending on the situation, one kind of polite communication may be suitable for one situation and be completely unacceptable for another. Thus, connoisseurs of etiquette, of which courtesy is a part, divided this quality into several types.
When arriving in another country, you should always remember: politeness is one of the aspects of culture, which has different nationalities. What is considered polite in one state can be absolutely strange and even rude in other nations.
Do you know that?! The Japanese have two different levels of polite communication. One is for the family, and the other is for everyone else. In both cases, different words are used for different sex, age and social status in society. Unfortunately, studies show that in the current Russian culture, our compatriots are not yet accustomed to trust traditional politeness. It still seems to us that underneath lies falsehood and the usual desire to please in order to receive something in return.
How can you be polite?
In addition to the types of polite communication that are already familiar to us, there are also forms in which it manifests itself. How can it be that they say “polite” about you?
Do you know that?! Beyond the limits of polite communication are words such as amiconism - that is, too familiar, unceremonious treatment, and servility - too polite, polite, bordering on servility.
Instruction for polite
It seems like one word, but how many faces he has. And this can be, and so, and best of all, a little, applying to each specific situation. How to become polite and is it difficult? To consolidate the qualities of a well-mannered person, you can remember for yourself and try to constantly follow simple rules that help to be polite.
Long live courage, excitement, speed,
Long live courtesy and kindness
Long live the good faces!
And let the one who is angry be ashamed!
A good example from the literature on correct behavior is a poem by Samuel Marshak “If you are polite ...” In it, in a comic form, the poet shows how to be brought up in everyday situations. Read it in class and take note. Maybe it will help your friends and classmates to become a little kinder and more educated.
At this, ShkolaLa says goodbye to its most polite readers!
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Always yours, Evgenia Klimkovich
Being polite is a matter of etiquette, respect, being attentive to people, their feelings, culture and values. It does not seem complicated, but many people do not own this etiquette. While some people have no interest in politics, you are probably wondering how you can improve your etiquette in behavior. At least you can learn how to avoid being rude or boorish. Being polite, knowing the rules of etiquette, is a good way to make new friends.
Courtesy of behavior.
Be polite, rule one ⇒ Be gentle and not behavioral or persistent. This does not mean that you need to act like a meek doe, as if it were a quiet trifling matter. This means that you do this without pressure on the people around you and do not make them feel as if they are being pushed into a corner.
* For example, if you have a conversation, this is one if you ask a question on a topic or offer your opinion, but another when you are rude, if someone has caused discomfort (verbally or nonverbally) on this topic.
* Even if you are trying to help by offering to pay for lunch or to wash the dishes, do not be persistent. If a person refuses and says: “Thank you, I can handle it myself”, you can answer: “Please, I would be happy to help.” If they still say no, let it be so.
Be polite, rule two ⇒ If in doubt, watch others. How do they greet each other? What do they do with their coat? What topics do they discuss? Different relationships require different standards, and these standards often define what is polite and what is not.
* Relationships related to work, lunch, holiday, wedding or funerals will require different approaches in relationships, a different tone than relations with a group of friends.
Be polite, rule three ⇒ Be polite. There is always a way of life, as we could meet this person again in a different setting and would not like to provoke negative memories, which will give a bad location. If someone annoys you or even speaks in an offensive tone, do not respond as an argument either. Suggest “Let's disagree” and change the subject, politely continue the discussion, or simply refuse the conversation.
Be polite, rule four ⇒ Start a conversation, ask questions about any other person. Try not to talk too much about yourself if they want to know (or are polite) they ask. Be confident and charming. Do not be arrogant and boorish. Look, be interested and listen to the answers.
* Do not look over your shoulder at the person when he is speaking, or your eyes are lingering on the new guest who has just entered. This means that you are distracted or not interested in what your companion says, it is not important or interesting enough for you to pay attention to.
Be polite, fifth rule ⇒ Firm handshake and look in the eyes when doing so. You can practice this a little so as not to clap people's hands or hurt them. It will make them feel awkward. Be especially careful when shaking hands with women who have rings on their hands. Excessive pressure can be very painful.
* Remember also that many people of the "old school" (especially if they are located in Europe) consider it inappropriate to offer their hand for a handshake to a lady or an elderly gentleman, of course, if you are a gentleman or an older lady, if you are a lady. Always greet the other person first, but wait for them to give them your hands. But also, if you are an elderly person or lady, keep in mind that if you do not give your hand, that person may feel rejected because he or she wants to shake your hand. Usually this situation takes another person who is moving towards you for a handshake. Be careful.
* Do not approach someone with an outstretched hand. That is, do not be persistent. If you want someone to know that you are moving towards them, make contact with your eyes or a smile, maybe a little opening your hand (bent at the elbow) to make a welcome gesture.
Be polite, rule six ⇒ Know the proper dinner etiquette rules. Put a napkin on your lap, and do not add anything to the table that was not there when you got there (cell phone, glasses, jewelry). Place your wallet between your legs, under your chair. Women should not apply makeup at the table. It looks rude and shows a lack of sophistication. If you want to correct makeup or check if there is something in the teeth, go to the toilet.
Be polite, rule seven ⇒ Smile and laugh, which shows your fun, but not loudly. Loudness indicates arrogance or uncertainty. Your charming politeness makes the other person feel good. Keep in mind this goal, to be attentive to the needs of people and their opinions. Do not make offensive remarks in relation to any ethnic, political or religious group under any circumstances.
Be polite, rule eighth ⇒ Be graceful and show elegance, behave smoothly, with a sense of calm. People will notice your subtle charm, and this will greatly help you.
Be polite, rule nine ⇒ It should be remembered that etiquette and manners vary depending on the cultural region in which you are. Be sure to learn the local customs while traveling!
What is politeness
Courteous behavior is one way to get what you want and not go against other people's desires. The founder of gestalt therapy Frederick Perls said that a person is always in conflict with society. He has his own needs, society has a set of laws and rules on how to satisfy these very needs. Laws and regulations are spelled out in documents or transmitted by word of mouth. Being polite is a norm that is not spelled out in laws, but is passed from mouth to mouth. If you want to be a good neighbor, friend, colleague, want to get feedback and build a stable relationship - be polite.
Why politeness is important for a strong relationship
Courtesy helps to keep boundaries. When people want to be respected, they want to respect their boundaries. They asked about their consent, took into account the needs. This does not mean that you need to ask everyone on the bus whether it is possible to open a window. But if someone asked to close because they are blowing a lot, it’s worth considering his opinion.
Politeness sets an example to others. Polite behavior is an important tool in the education and upbringing of children. And not only children. If you require courtesy from relatives, formulate your opinion in a respectful, not harsh form. The word “please” and the appeal to “you” are reassuring - I just want to answer just as politely.
Politeness allows you to stay people even in emergency situations. Courtesy seems to be unnecessary in a crush, in case of fire, or in an accident. But this is not so - slowness and indifference are not needed, but love for others and respect for borders are still important. You can not get out of the crush on the head - you need to help everyone who is in trouble.
How to be polite
Think before you do. Leonard Mlodinov in the book “(Un) Conscious” writes that humans are distinguished from animals by the ability to calculate the consequences of their actions. And to calculate not only what will happen, but also what others will think about it. This ability allows you to be polite - to predict reactions to actions and to understand whether this will disturb the peace and health of others.
Respect others - especially friends and relatives. In close relationships, a person often forgets about delicacy, and not only in words, but also in deeds. But making decisions for another, if he is an adult, is not the norm. Start to reckon with the opinion of a loved one and only then “improve” his life.
