Now the girls have become quite independent, and some guys see no reason to offer acquaintance first - they believe that if a girl likes him, then she will be the first to meet. Indeed, many girls have too high requirements and the guys are afraid to be refused. How to get acquainted with a guy a girl? Read about it in the article.
How to make an acquaintance with a guy
If you are still determined to get to know each other and are not afraid to put some effort into this, consider the following tips.
If the girl with her boyfriend is interested in mutual friends, then ask your friends to arrange a joint walk for you. Perhaps this will be a meeting in the company of friends, which will nevertheless be an occasion to get to know the guy, talk again, where you can correct mistakes at the first meeting (prepare thoroughly, paying attention to the guy’s preferences in advance) and continue your relationship with him. If, when meeting a guy, you decided that he was very interesting to you, and you decided to call him yourself, think about what you’ll talk about so as not to put the guy in an awkward situation in silence.
For your second date to take place, even if the first one didn’t go off with a bang, do something pleasant for the person: say a compliment, share interest, be careful, and this will charm your lover.
First you need to pay attention to your appearance. A groomed girl can hardly count on the attention of men. Moreover, an unwritten rule applies: the more the girl is well-groomed, the more attractive and solid partner she can count on.
For this reason, raise the bar higher and sign up for the nearest gym. In addition, go to the beauty salon, tidy your hair, do manicure / pedicure, treat your face skin with masks.
Where to meet guys
This is an important issue. After all, on the street it is unlikely to get to know a normal guy - most likely, with some kind of bully or womanizer. If you expect to get acquainted with that calculation in order to find a spouse and father of children, you still should not get acquainted on the street.
Although there may be exceptions, they are so rare that it is better not to take risks - there will be less disappointments.
Another option is to get a job where there will be many men - a men's clothing store, computers, expensive cognacs and wines.
If you don’t want to change jobs for any reason, go to a good restaurant (not an eatery) in your free time. There is a lot more chance to meet a wealthy guy.
The main thing is not to demand from him martini and expensive dishes, even if he promises to pay for it. Keep in mind that on the first date it’s better to pay for it yourself - wealthy guys are sure that you think they are just a “bag of money”.
But if you insist that you pay for yourself - it will be a big plus. If the guy is normal - he will not allow you to do this, but if only he will be happy - that means he is just greedy.
Now you understand how a girl to meet a guy. But the main thing - do not be afraid to show your sympathy for the guy you like - do not try to seem like an impregnable queen. And then you will succeed!
Spontaneous acquaintance on the street, in the park, for a walk
As a rule, acquaintances in such places occur spontaneously. If you show a certain degree of resourcefulness, then you can easily start a dialogue with a guy you like. For example, you can ask how to get to a building. It is desirable that the desired object is not far from you, so that the young man has the opportunity to guide you.
We meet on the Internet, in contact, on a dating site
First of all, it is important to understand that the guy will draw conclusions about you on your page in VK or on a dating site. If you want to attract the attention of a potential elect, then you should have a sufficient amount of high-quality photos, information about yourself. Do not expect to interest him in fake pictures - this is only time lost for you. Moreover, fakes are now pretty easy to compute.
If we are talking about acquaintance in VK, then try to start with the most commonplace - with likes. Mark photos and posts that you like. But it’s important to understand that some guys don’t attach importance to such signs of attention, and sometimes they don’t even notice them.
The next step is a private message. According to the response of the young man, you can determine whether you have generated interest in return. For example, you can write that he has very interesting music on the page, and ask which groups you can find similar. You can write directly: “I just liked you. Let's be friends".
On a dating site, shyness is completely useless. The people who appeared on this site are set up for communication and meetings, therefore, having written to one of the users, you are unlikely to get into trouble. Examine his page, determine which girl he is looking for and for what purposes, and start a dialogue. Note that you liked his pictures, ask questions that really interest you. It is important not to drag out virtual communication. Many men have been sitting on dating sites for years, chatting with other people from boredom and not at all intending to switch to a different communication format. If you suspect that the guy is not interested in meeting, then do not waste your time on him.
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How to meet in a club or cafe
You can tell the guy who got the attention that your phone is dead, asking for a call from his device. Also, if you know that in any case you will call a taxi, you can ask the guy the number of the appropriate service. However, it will be better if you call from his phone to a well-known number, so that later you have another opportunity to contact him.
If you are in a club with a girlfriend, then ask the young man to take a picture of you. Particularly brave girls can offer a guy they like to make a joint photo with him.
In the company of friends, at work or study, making friends is very simple
If you met in the same company, then you can just ask your mutual friend to introduce you to each other. Although, as a rule, this is not required - acquaintance quite naturally passes without the participation of others. Just laugh at the guy’s jokes, you can say that you most likely saw him, for example, at your university. Such a statement will be sufficient reason to start a conversation.
It will not be difficult to get to know a guy at school: ask where this or that office is located, ask to rewrite the task from his notebook, give a fictitious surname, and find out if this person is studying in his group. Also at school, you can show a guy your interest with the help of regular peering - for many young men this is a signal for action.
If you liked the guy with whom you work together, then you can also make acquaintance with questions. Say that you are looking for a colleague and find out if he has seen her. After receiving the answer, you can continue the conversation by asking whether the young man has been working here for a long time, whether he has figured out everything and whether he needs to be prompted. Note that you are glad to meet you, and at subsequent meetings greet him.
To attract a guy, monitor your appearance and behavior
Many girls say that for some reason the guys do not pay special attention to them on the street, not understanding what could be the problem. Often the true reason lies in the appearance. It is possible that you look too distant, or it may even seem that you are not free.
If you prefer a strict style of dress, then subconsciously the guys may get the impression that you are too busy and you are not interested in dating. Especially, it’s stupid to expect a man to suit you if you are used to walking at a fast pace - he has not yet had time to examine you plainly, and you have already disappeared around the corner.
Not particularly enjoy the attention of boys girls with a joyless expression on their faces who prefer not to look around, so as not to meet with anyone's eyes. Young people believe that the girl is in a bad mood, and now she clearly does not want to make new friends. Also, most men try to avoid persons who may seem too arrogant and arrogant to them.
And, paradoxically, very beautiful girls also often suffer from loneliness - men are sure that without them she has a lot of fans.
To meet someone - do not sit at home
Wanting to meet an interesting guy, you need to be in the "right" places from time to time. It is very unlikely that you will meet an interesting young man in a cosmetic store, but if you go to a football match, your chances will increase significantly.
In fact, in the city you can find many institutions and institutions where there is a great chance to meet a potential elect. Pay attention to car shows, shooting galleries, billiards, rock concerts, gyms.
Take a walk without company - it increases the chance of getting to know each other
It’s great to get to some kind of institution in the company of friends, but be aware that many guys hesitate to approach girls who are surrounded by other people. If possible, get out alone in crowded places - go to the ice rink, to the exhibition, sit in a cozy coffee shop with a book in your hands. A potential chosen one will have the opportunity to take a closer look at you and start a casual conversation with you.
How to get to know if you are shy
If you understand that it is a very difficult task for you to approach a guy and start a conversation with him, then you can resort to other methods that can also help in achieving the desired result.
Few men expect a woman to take the initiative in getting to know them in her own hands. More often they are waiting for a certain “signal” - you just need to periodically look at the man, a couple of times you can barely noticeably smile. This will be quite enough to show the young man that he managed to arouse your interest.
Also, for sure, you have a girlfriend who is not difficult to make new acquaintances - at the same time, she does it simply and unobtrusively. Watch how she starts a dialogue with the guys, take note of some tricks. It is possible that at your request, a friend herself to share the necessary advice. Perhaps you have a good friend to whom you can tell that you want to meet someone, but don’t know how to do it. It is likely that among his close circle there are free men to whom he will introduce you.
How to start a conversation if a guy has long liked
In this case, undoubtedly, you managed to learn a lot about him, and now you can put this knowledge into practice. Find out where the guy is most often, and also visit these places.
For example, you find out that he goes to the gym. You can also go in for sports in the same institution, and ask the young man you like how to turn on this or that simulator or to clarify what time the club is open. You can also find it on a social network, add to it as friends, writing how you learned about its existence.
In general, the further you delay the moment of acquaintance, the worse it will be for you to decide on this step. While you are considering what to do, the guy can already start dating another person.
To make a relationship in the future - be yourself
You can make a guy want to start an affair with you by making friends with him. In this case you don’t see yourself cheekily, forget about vulgar jokes and the like. Subsequently, the young man may decide that such behavior is familiar to you in men's companies.
It is enough in a friendly form to be interested in his affairs, tell about yourself, your hobbies, support and praise a guy, ask his advice, and communicate kindly with him.
How nice to meet a man
There are many ways to meet a man, and at the same time you will not look intrusive at all. So, consider the simplest of them.
1. Reception “Identified”. If you are a brave girl, then this method is perfect for you. Approach the young man you like from the back, and with your hands close his eyes. After a couple of seconds, remove your hands, and embarrassed, admit that you took him for your friend.
2. In the store. Choose departments in which there are mainly men. A good option could be the store "Everything for fishing." Ask your favorite guy what he could recommend as a gift to a man who is fond of such pastimes. Say you want to give a gift to a close relative. It will be no less natural if you approach a man in the department of men's clothing. Say that you want to give your friend a shirt for his birthday, and note that he is about his complexion, then ask what size you should pay special attention to.
3. Ask for help. It is rare that a man refuses to help a woman, especially if she likes him. After leaving the store with a smile, ask the guy to help you carry heavy bags to the car or to the entrance. You can also pretend that you are very scattered by dropping a pile of papers or a pen next to the guy you like. Surely, he will try to help you eliminate the consequences of the "disaster."
4. Rain. During the rain, you can ask the young man to wait out the bad weather with him under his umbrella. True, this step is suitable only for very decisive and resourceful girls.
5. Sit nearby. Another popular way. When you see that a handsome young man is bored alone at a table or on a bench, ask him if he will mind if you sit next to him. Pretend that you just liked this place without bothering the guy with talking. If you cause his interest, he himself will find a reason to speak with you.
6. Business card. You can give the young man a business card, saying that you were "asked to give her." Surely, he will understand that your number is written on paper, and if he liked you, then now you just have to wait for his call.
7. Dogs. It is also quite easy to start a dialogue with the “dog lover”. If you yourself do not have a dog, then find out where the dog owners in your city mainly walk their pets, and go there. Choose the guy without a wedding ring on the finger that will cause you the most sympathy, and go to him. Tell me that soon you plan to get the same dog as his and want to know the features of caring for this breed. Surely, he will enthusiastically support the proposed conversation.
8. Common friends. If you have common acquaintances, then this fact can play into your hands. You can write to a young person on social networks that you cannot get in touch with a mutual friend and ask if he does not know his phone number (you yourself could, for example, “lose” him).
9. Station. Making acquaintances at stations or at the airport is also easy. You can ask the guy how to get to the exit, where is the desired platform and the like.
10. A compliment. If the guy smells pleasantly of some perfume, then give him a compliment and ask for the name of the perfume. Point out that you want to give a gift to your brother, and such a fragrance will certainly suit him. You can look at a young man’s watch, shirt, sneakers, asking where you can buy your favorite thing.
11. Search for protection. If you get home late in the evening, and see that you are on your way with a handsome guy, you can ask him to walk together. Say that you usually return home earlier, and you’re a little scared, so you will be very happy if he guides you a little, or if you just go through some sections of the path together. Usually, young people like to feel like protectors, and your request is likely to flatter the guy.
Proven ways to quickly draw his attention to yourself
Men “love with eyes”
It has long been known that man “loves with his eyes,” and it has not lost its relevance to this day. If you want to be in the center of male attention, then you need to look bright and feminine. Understanding that you have any shortcomings, immediately begin to fight them. Stop being lazy and take care of yourself closely. You should always be prepared for the “main acquaintance in your life”.
Most guys like girls with long, loose hair. Periodically make light curls that will flow over your shoulders and back. Give preference to natural shades of hair.
Many girls neglect makeup, being sure that guys now appreciate the "natural" beauty. Это действительно так, но никто вас не заставляет наносить на лицо «боевую раскраску». Не каждая девушка может похвастаться безупречной кожей, приятным румянцем, яркими губами и густыми длинными ресницами. Если всего этого у вас нет, то будет не лишним наносить на кожу легкий тон и румяна.Lips can be touched slightly with a natural shine or at least hygienic lipstick, and one layer of high-quality mascara should be applied to the eyelashes. Believe that for most girls, unobtrusive makeup goes much more than a complete lack of makeup.
Of course, a potential lover at the first meeting will pay attention to what you are wearing. Avoid untidiness and negligence in your appearance. Get rid of shapeless trousers and dimensionless sweaters. Your attire should emphasize your merits as much as possible.
Do you have slender legs? Then do not miss the opportunity to demonstrate this by wearing tight-fitting jeans or a skirt. Underline a thin waist with a fitted dress or an original belt. Learn how to emphasize your most profitable clothes and mask the losing ones. Among other things, it will not be superfluous to pay attention to the perfume that you use. Many women neglect this item, considering it not particularly significant, and underestimating its strength. In fact, perfume is very important and men often pay attention first to it, and then to the owner of perfume itself.
Self confidence and calm
Do not confuse self-confidence with arrogance. It is unlikely that a guy will come to you if he notices how you look arrogantly at someone. It is also unlikely that you will attract a man if you have a pained expression on your face. In general, it is very important to monitor what emotions are usually reflected on your face. Make sure to look friendly. Try not to make sudden movements or rush if the situation does not require it.
When a guy glances at you, do not look away in horror and do not try to speed up the pace. By the way, many girls do this involuntarily, despite the fact that they really want to get to know each other. Meet someone else’s look calmly. If you liked the man, you can smile slightly at him.
Goodwill is always in fashion
When a young man begins a conversation with you, show maximum benevolence if you want your acquaintance to continue. Do not think that if you once read that a man should “seek a woman”, then you need to sit with a distant look, watching how a new acquaintance manifests himself. Maintain a topic of conversation, express interest in what the interlocutor is telling you, ask questions yourself. Of course, one should not “go too far”, telling a man everything in a row, wishing to maintain a conversation. Just respond to the topics asked by him. Smile more often and listen to your interlocutor.
Casual dating - guys' opinions and tips
Most of the guys have a positive attitude towards casual acquaintances, and this is not surprising, because it is mainly they who initiate them.
Many young people agree that simply by looking at the girl, they already know whether they will approach her or not. This is influenced by several factors.
Firstly, a girl should not look like she is in a hurry somewhere or is too keen on something (telephone conversation, emotional conversation with her friend). Secondly, a potential new acquaintance should like outwardly. Usually the assessment of appearance is very subjective, but most often young people like well-groomed and feminine girls, and cause rejection of vulgarly dressed persons. Also, the man pays attention to how the girl reacts to him - if she does not look away sharply, looks relaxed under his gaze, then further, more often, acquaintance follows.
Many men admit that they see nothing wrong with if a woman herself initiates dating - on the contrary, as a rule, they are very grateful for this step. Some young people do not dare to approach the girl they like, being sure that she is probably not free or just afraid of her refusal, so her initiative, most often, is very appropriate.
What to make guys get to know you
It is easier to get acquainted with guys for those girls who are liberated and talkative. But not all girls can decide to be the first to come up and meet a guy they like. Moreover, girls are afraid to do it.
Even if they are refused once, this will cause them a huge complex, which will be very, very difficult to get rid of. It's easier to get the guys to take the initiative themselves. But how to make guys get to know you?
Firstly, you must constantly take care of your appearance: try to look well-groomed and tidy, as well as fresh and natural. And note that it’s not at all necessary to do makeup-causing, to build up “kilometer” nails, to wear too revealing clothes.
Everything is much simpler: carefully made manicures, washed hair, beautiful skin and, of course, a dazzling smile, are ready to create a miracle.
Secondly, your facial expression should always be kind and open, sometimes a little mysteriously thoughtful.
To get to know a guy, try to set yourself up in a positive way. You should not have a dreary look, but also not impregnable. In this case, you will discourage the young man from wanting to get to know you: he will think that you will definitely refuse to meet him, and oh guys, they don’t like rejections. Therefore, you just need to look at the guy with an interested look, you can even smile slightly, seem friendly to him.
Try to visit more often in places where there are many representatives of the opposite sex. Learn to communicate with them, do not be shy, do not blush. It is possible that in one of them you will notice someone who will later be not just a friend to you ...
Try to visit as many public places as possible: theaters, cinemas, performances, exhibitions, etc.
But as for the discos, then having come there with your friends, try to be isolated for some time, as it will be easier for a guy to get to know you without the giggling of your friends.
To meet a guy, expand the scope of your interests: find yourself a couple of hobbies. And it would be desirable if guys like this hobby. This will increase your chances of meeting a young man.
You can also try to take advantage of a little trick: load your package a little more and boldly step into places where a large number of young people mainly gather. Surely among them there is a brave knight who will help you with your burden.
We hope that we have revealed the secret to you, how to make guys get to know you?
Simple ways to start a relationship with a guy
We just invite you on a date, no matter where: to the cinema, to the theater, to a cafe or to a walk. In this case, the fact that we invite to see each other again and spend time together is important.
Such an invitation is already a generally accepted signal for everyone, indicating that you think it is time to move on to more personal communication.
If your goal is to start a relationship with a guy with whom you study or work, then a joint trip to a cafe for lunch, as well as returning home from work or helping with work (training) issues are ideal.
For those who think how to start a relationship and get to know a guy, you can recommend taking care and attention in relation to the object of their passion. The option of making tea or coffee is suitable, with a nice present in the form of chocolate or a nice souvenir for the next holiday.
Non-banal ways to start a relationship with a guy
If you feel like starting a relationship with a guy, then you should come up with an original way to draw his attention to yourself. Such methods should be used when you meet on the Internet or try flirting relationships at work. The need to surprise, conquer and make a vivid impression arises when you find yourself in a situation where several people claim the object of your dreams.
To conquer women's hearts, original bouquets of sweets, plush toys and stylish gifts in the form of mugs, the handle of which imitates a diamond ring, are suitable.
In order for the guys to tremble, and he could not resist you, a caring attitude, beautiful SMS wishes during the working day and stylish presentations that emphasize his status or become a symbol of his hobbies will do.
Originality is the key to successful development of relations. If you have already decided the questions “how to get to know the guy and how to start a relationship with him”, then you should be prepared for the fact that in the future you will have to support the bar you have chosen to surprise your loved one in the future.
For example, it’s not worth it, if you are not an absolute fan of extreme relations, to give a balloon flight for the first date, no matter how romantic this may seem to you.
Just because those surprises that you choose should give pleasure to both participants, and if you chase after immense originality, then instead of pleasant emotions you will experience fear.
Originality does not have to be pretentious; it can consist in an original surprise in the form of an unusual bouquet of flowers, in the idea of a surprise gift or in the form of a beautiful declaration of love in verse.
Why can't I get to know guys:
Perhaps you are a little constrained and closed, it is difficult for you to show interest in the opposite sex, because you consider it a little vulgar. In fact, it is quite natural: like attracts like. Stop being shy. Smile more often and be open not only in communication with guys, but also with your environment. Guys are people too, they are the same as you
Perhaps it’s worth revising your wardrobe and making changes to it a bit of romantic and bright things, a bit of stylish, fashionable outfits. Update your underwear and wear the one in which you will feel sexy. The guys don’t see him, but they will feel the change in you,
You like the wrong guys. Or those guys that you like are not ready for a serious relationship. The reason is serious. Are you ready to start a relationship with a guy? Become the one who will be responsible for the feelings of another person,
Do you want to meet a guy, but it doesn’t work out? Then stop controlling young people and impose their opinion on them what kind of relationship should be. This is not a movie, this is real life, and in life men try to avoid those women who influence everything,
Do not expect promises from guys. If they are not at his request, then they will not be. It is very difficult to make a man fulfill a promise made by force, they are changeable in nature and prone to betrayal.
It will only depend on you according to what scenario the relationship will develop, because in them you will invest not only your traditions and taste preferences, but also a piece of your warmth and love.
Any relationships you create will need to be maintained. We all know the best support is sincerity, care, kindness, attention and love. start a relationship with a guy, in your power to make the very cocktail of your best qualities that will give you and your soulmate a 100% sense of happiness.